Let’s Talk About Sex
From pornography to condoms; from sex toys to explicit romance novels sex education has become as deep as a puddle; simply the point of what this is all about has been missed. Consequently 75% of women today do not experience orgasms. It would not be surprising if this figure was actually conservative. So clearly talking about sex beyond the hype of media and the saturation on the internet has been shut down and cut off. This means that most are unaware of how much more there really is to sex and sex education.
This is interesting given what forms of learning are available and yet all the core fundamental issues that impact on sex are rarely addressed.
To some sex is an act of love; to others sex is about procreation and the reasons for sex become layered however, always focusing on having sex rather than the role of the actual person behind the act.
When it comes to what is wanted from sex as an individual how many know what it is they want, let alone how to get this? Many believe that sex is simply about “getting off”, but is this all there is to it?
When taking a look at this one dimensional aspect this in itself is something that is expected from the partner not the person. It is as though the partner received the manual on “how to please me” and not the person. Naturally this tends to end badly. Initially going through the motions is fun, with a change in a couple of positions but over time this becomes mundane and boring. So, perhaps it is not only about getting off.
What if this was only the beginning to what was possible? What if sex had nothing to do with having a partner and actually started with each individual person? What difference would this make?
It is socially expected that sex is always with someone and masturbation is looked down upon. Yet, fundamentally how can anyone know what they want by an external party?
When it comes to talking about sex this tends to be limited by social belief systems and choosing not to be connected during the physical act. The sex drive in itself is strong and can be very healthy however, this does not mean that the person will feel like sex or want to explore their boundaries. The question needs to be asked – why?
Simply because sex is more than “getting off”, it is more than the physical act alone and disconnecting from the person in that moment will only create more confusion and in some cases, trauma around sex all together.
It is time to take a step back; back from what is out their in the media, on the internet and start with the individual. All of those insecurities, self loathing and mistrust within are evident during sex as much as they are when being alone. Suppressing this aspect will not help in life or sex and given the lack of orgasms there are this clearly demonstrates this point.
Sex education is about more than literal techniques. This is the easy part. The challenge is ensuring that each person is participating in what’s right for them as one person, not the sexual part gaining a quick hit whilst the emotional aspect checks out.
Are you ready to learn more?