Life balance out of whack? Build a bridge.

By Miriam Castilla

This was driving me nuts - I was crawling out of my skin.

It’d been going on for weeks. All I wanted to desperately do was WRITE, but each day was crazier than the last. The phone wouldn’t stop ringing, emails kept pouring in and my day would be over before I knew it. By the time I got home each night, I was exhausted.

It was wearing me out and I was making zero progress.

Weeks went by before it finally dawned on me. I’d been trying to force an extra piece into an already full puzzle. You don’t have to be a genius to figure out that’s just not gonna work.

Time for a change – and pronto!

I needed to slow life down. Regular yoga and meditation became non-negotiable and I’d get up an hour earlier to write before the family woke up.

I asked my husband to take over more household duties and made the decision to keep all meals quick and simple. No big gourmet productions for a while!

The hardest thing was quitting the band. That one really hurt so I’d rather not talk about it, thanks very much.

The thing is, sometimes when you REALLY want something in life; you have to be willing to let other (really cool) things go.

Writing a book can’t just be slotted into an already jam-packed life. It requires some serious sacrificing and re-arranging of priorities. So I did what I had to.

And then the strangest thing happened.

My days started to take on this amazing flow. I’d be completely up to date by mid afternoon and could spend even more time writing. I’d arrive at the office feeling excited and energized, knowing my day was already a success. I stopped struggling against the calls and emails and went back to systematically working through them, enjoying serving my clients once again.



By refusing to struggle against things outside my control, I gained energy, reduced stress and boosted my productivity. Who’d have guessed?

There’s really no magic to it. You can improve your life balance and it starts with accepting the truth: ”We will NEVER have perfect life balance.”

At best we can hope to keep up a sustainable balancing act that doesn’t drive us bonkers. There will be times when some things just take over for a while.

Just chill and know it’ll swing back the other way soon enough. Struggling against this perpetual see-saw of imbalance will only wear you out.

I’m not saying you can’t have everything you want. You just can’t have it all at the same time. And the sooner you accept it, the better.

Be kind to yourself. Accept that life will sometimes get messy. Simplify things as much as you can. Take the heat off yourself a bit.

Accept and simplify – then ALLOW.

Allow the flow to unfold, allow things to fall into the groove of their own natural rhythm. Stop struggling against the river and just go with it instead.

As soon as you stop struggling against something, you take away its power over you.

I’m no master at achieving flow, but I can tell you this:

When you get it going – oh baby, it’s magic!

Like anything, this gets easier with practice. Here’s a quick recap to help you get started:

  • Accept that perfect life balance just isn’t achievable. Make your peace with it and instead focus on spending your time on the things most important to you.
  • Re-arrange your day. Get up early and do the things that fulfil you the most before you do anything else.
  • Stop struggling against things you can’t control and just allow life to flow.

Then move to the groove.


Miriam xx

About Miriam Castilla - Hi, I'm the author of 'Today's Woman - Life Balance Secrets' due for international release this year. I empower and support entrepreneurial women with a 360 degree 'Full Circle' approach to overcoming stress, guilt & overwhelm. I help you first up figure out what your core values are and what you REALLY want out of life, then give you the practical mindset, time and money management tools to finally create that lasting success & fulfillment you desire. Come visit to find out more and get 'In The Loop' - my weekly newsletter with more tips & tricks for you. xx Miriam